MAKING CONVERSATION

Many people think that making great conversation means having a lot of interesting things to talk about.

This could not be further from the truth!

A great conversationalist draws the other person into the call and keeps them interested, and the best way to do this is by making the conversation about your caller whenever possible... the following are almost sure-fire ways to make great conversation :

1. Give him your COMPLETE attention.

All of your attention. Resist the temptation to scan the room, watch tv, see what's going on in chat, etc... Your caller can tell whether or not he has your full attention, and it's very flattering for him if he does...

Talk and listen to him as if he is the most important person you have ever talked to and as if this conversation is the most important discussion of your life! When you do this, he cannot help but notice the respect you are showing him. This is very flattering, and makes him like you more!

Callers will respond very positively to this attention. They will warm to you, speak more freely and pay closer attention to what you say...

2. Make small talk

Small talk is the starting point. Why? Because the sooner the sexual talk comes up, the sooner the call may be over. Unless of course, your caller is breathing heavily and won't talk, always ask where he is (might be somewhere interesting!), ask what he's doing tonight (did he just get in? did he go out? was it to a bar or a club? with friends?) and whatever topics (about HIM of course!) that THOSE questions lead to...

Pay very close attention not only to your caller's answers, but the way he answers... You need to learn to spot clues that indicate whether or not he likes the direction the call is taking or not. If he sounds interested, you're on the right track.. if you feel like you're losing him, it may be time to spice things up a bit.

It's easy to tell if you're heading in the right direction or not as long as you pay more attention to how he talks than to what he says. You'll still hear everything he says - you'll simply look for clues in his tone that will tell you whether or not he likes the topic of conversation.

3. Learn to take a hint

When your caller brings up a subject that he is enthusiastic about, follow that lead and drive the conversation in that direction! This is very easy to do since our callers love to talk about what interests them. A few good questions to open up the topic is usually all it takes.

A spark then ignites the conversation and before you know it, the conversation takes on a life of its own.

Match the enthusiasm in his voice with your own voice and tone. This is very important - if you fail to do this you will dampen his enthusiasm, then the subject will change to something he's not as interested in, and the end of the call has just gotten a lot closer!

One important point - look for positive topics and things that he will enjoy talking about... make it your goal to fish for the things that turn him on, ask for details with specific, interested questions, and he'll feel like a stud telling you all about it.